Internal Family Systems (IFS)
working with Exiles
$250 ($200 Early Bird)
Taught by Everett Considine, IFSCP
This is the continuation of the IFS Peer Facilitation Training I started in Maui in August of 2015. We will be focusing on working with Exiles.
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Inner Parts Work
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
$325 ($300 Early Bird)
Taught by Everett Considine, IFSCP
Taught by: Everett Considine
This is an intensive introduction to IFS. This class is designed to leverage the skillset Shamanic Practitioners already have to quickly bring them up to speed on the power of Internal Family Systems. Some participants will be ready to start to integrate IFS into their practice after this one weekend. Everett provides ongoing support and training after the workshop.
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Here is a recorded detailed introduction to IFS (45 minutes):
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We each know the importance of doing your emotional AND spiritual work. Internal Family Systems allows you to do both of them with this one powerful modality. Internal Family Systems is a type of therapy that has been around for 30 years. It can also be used as a powerful form of personal self-improvement. It is another form of Soul Retrieval and shamanic practitioners will find that IFS perspectives and techniques fit quite nicely into their toolbox.
Are you or your clients dealing with self-criticism, procrastination or other self-created obstacles? How would your (or your clients) life be different if each decision and action came from a clear centered place? This intensive workshop teaches a systematic way of working with problematic “inner” parts and shows you how to live from your most authentic Self.
Learn to use IFS in working on yourself and with a partner. This workshop gives you an introduction to the fundamental structure of the IFS model. We work on identifying parts, unblending, getting to know protectors, and developing a healing relationship with them. You learn how to access and support the Self, the healing agent in the system. We then learn about Exiles (the wounded parts) and how we “unburden” and heal them in IFS.
The workshop includes teaching, individual sessions in class, group exercises, and work with each other in pairs on skill development.
Detail of Classes
Module One: Introduction to IFS
IFS is based on the idea that the psyche consists of sub-personalities, called parts, which make up a kind of inner system. Parts often get into conflicts with each other and act in dysfunctional ways in an attempt to protect us from pain. All of this happens largely outside our awareness, and when we do see what is happening, we frequently try to banish the parts that are causing the difficulties. Yet this is hardly ever solves the problem. IFS, on the other hand, teaches us to relate to our parts with openness, curiosity, and compassion, not judgment, which allows each part to reveal its hidden agenda and the pain it defends against. This paves the way for healing and transformation, which can be accomplished by following the detailed procedure taught in this course.
The psyche is largely organized to protect itself from pain, which is why IFS makes a distinction between parts that are in pain and parts that protect us from it. Protectors are parts that handle the external world and protect against vulnerability and pain. Exiles are young child parts that are in pain from the past. Protectors try to arrange our lives so that people can’t hurt our exiles, and when this does happen, protectors shut us down emotionally to keep us from feeling the pain. This noble effort doesn’t really work; the suffering still leaks through at odd moments. Furthermore, the defenses instituted by protectors make us relate to the world in troublesome ways, or they blunt our aliveness or rob us of important capacities. IFS is able to transform the psyche by relying on the healing power of our true Self or spiritual center, which has four important qualities (connectedness, curiosity, compassion, and calmness). Module 1 introduces the IFS model and helps you understand some of your parts.
Module 2: Accessing a Part
IFS work is not primarily about understanding your parts intellectually, although that does happen. It involves going deep inside and accessing them on an experiential level through emotions, images, body sensations, or internal dialogue. You engage the part in a relationship and come to understand it on a gut level. When deciding where to focus in a session, you may look for a trailhead–an experience or issue in your life that involves emotional reactions indicating the need for inner work. Exploring the trailhead will reveal the parts behind these reactions. This can then lead to healing. Module 2 shows how to access parts and explore trailheads.
Module 3: Becoming Centered
In the IFS process, before you can get to know one of our parts in a beneficial way, you must be in Self. From the vantage point of Self, you are separate from the part; it is not blended or entangled with you. You are centered rather than experiencing the anger, judgment, or other feelings of the part. You are clear and unbiased, not caught up in the part’s dysfunctional beliefs. Module 3 shows how to unblend from a protector before you work with it.
Module 4: Being Open and Curious
IFS teaches a new and loving way to relate to our parts. Usually when we become aware of one, the first thing we do is evaluate it. Is it good or bad? Do we like it or not? If we decide it is good, we embrace it, give it power, and act from it. If we decide it is bad, however, we try to get rid of it. However, that doesn’t work. You can’t get rid of a part of yourself. All you can do is push it into the unconscious, where it will continue to affect you without your awareness. In IFS, we do something radically different from evaluating our parts. We welcome all our parts with curiosity and compassion, which allows us to connect with each part, gain its trust, and ultimately heal it. We don’t judge the “problem” parts; rather, we seek to understand them and appreciate their efforts to help us, without losing sight of the ways they cause problems. It is the spiritual quality of the Self that gives us the capacity to be so completely accepting. Class 4 teaches how to tell if you are in Self and how to access Self so you can successfully work with a protector.
Module 3 and 4 are both about accessing Self. The brilliance of IFS is that it allows you to be both objective and compassionate; that is, you can both see the part as it really is and accept it. These two qualities form a potent combination that is rare in methods of inner work.
Module 5: Finding out a Protector’s Positive Intent
Every part of your psyche is doing its best to help you, even those protectors that are a thorn in your side. Each protector truly believes it is safeguarding you from pain or harm, even though its methods may be misguided. Understanding that it has a positive intent helps you to appreciate it rather than reject it.
When we analyze our parts intellectually, we cannot truly understand and connect with them. The information we obtain will be limited and we won’t develop the deeper relationship with parts that is crucial to the rest of the healing process. Module 5 shows you how to ask parts revealing, insightful questions and genuinely listen to their responses, which may come in words, in images, in body sensations, in emotions, or from direct knowing. In this way you make a direct experiential connection with your parts.
Module 6: Developing a Trusting Relationship with a Protector
In IFS, working with a protector isn’t just a matter of getting information and insight. You must build a trusting relationship with it. You cannot reach exiles without permission from the protectors that are standing guard over them and preventing access. The reason protectors take on extreme roles in the first place is that they believe they are on their own in defending against threats and suffering. Either they don’t know that Self is there, or they don’t believe it has enough strength and wisdom to handle threatening situations. Success in IFS depends on the degree to which you connect with protectors and gain their trust. Then they can begin to relax and allow the Self to take a larger role in dealing with the world. Class 6 explains how to develop a trusting relationship with a protector.
Working with Other Parts that Arise
The course presents these five steps in the IFS process of getting to know a protector. It also describes how to handle a variety of experiences that may arise during these steps that don’t fit neatly into the progression. Our internal process is never as tidy as described in a class. While working with a part, you might suddenly space out and lose focus; you might become distracted; your feelings might go numb. Whenever something seems to be going wrong like this, it is because a protector part has taken over that wants to stop the process. You simply need to realize this and engage with that protector to find out why it needed to derail the work.
Other problems can arise: While you are focusing on a particular part, other feelings can burst onto the stage, confusing you as to where to focus. Or you might be flooded with a variety of intense feelings. Sometimes new protectors can creep in unexpectedly and take you out of Self without your knowing this. Other times you may be talking to a protector and the exile it is protecting arises without your realizing it; you still think you are relating to the protector. When any of these events occur, the process could be derailed. Fortunately, IFS has ways of handling all these contingencies, which are taught in this Basic Course. A central principle in IFS is “All parts are welcome.” This means that you are open to hearing from all parts, which allows you to tell when a part that seems to be “interfering” has an important message that shouldn’t be ignored. At the same time, IFS helps you to stay on track with the original target part.
Accessing Exiles (Final Day)
You learn how to safely access young wounded parts (exiles), how to stay in Self, how to develop a healing relationship with your exiles and how to unburden the pain and negative beliefs of exiles so they are transformed. This enables you to do a complete IFS sessions with yourself or a partner. You learn how to facilitate a partner who is working on themselves.
Everett is a fully-trained IFS practitioner, meditation teacher, and workshop leader. He is an excellent teacher with an engaging manner and a calm and sensitive presence. I highly recommend this class. – Jay Earley
About the teacher:
Everett Considine has been introducing people to deeper Self-awareness for 30 years. He teaches ongoing classes in Meditation and Inner Parts Work in the Seattle area. He is a certified IFS Practitioner and has completed the Level I, II and III IFS trainings. He also assists in professional IFS trainings. Everett is a natural teacher who excels at introducing complex subjects to beginners in a fun and engaging manner. He is very passionate about introducing IFS to people. He is a certified Shamanic Practitioner and was trained with Char Sundust at the Sundust Oracle Institute. You can read more about him here: http://everettconsidine.com/about-everett/
Cost: $375 ($325 Early Bird)
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Everett Considine is the consummate teacher. He is very warm and friendly and genuinely cares for his students. I was very impressed by his technical knowledge about IFS theory and techniques as well as his ability to both gently and lovingly nudge his students to grow while creating a very safe place to do the deeply personal work of IFS. I benefited tremendously from taking his classes and doing IFS sessions with him and I recommend him to anyone who wants to deepen their working knowledge of Internal Family Systems therapy and make major strides in his or her personal journey of spiritual growth and healing. – Tom Burdenski, PhD, Licensed Psychologist, Marriage and Family Therapist, and Professional Counselor, Assistant Professor of Counseling Psychology, Tarleton State University
Everett is a fantastic facilitator of IFS. I have done both classes and individual sessions with him. He is caring, treats his students with the utmost respect and interest and gives a lot of himself in the process. I got a lot from my sessions with him and he guided me through the sometimes difficult process of coming to know parts of myself that had been excluded for years. Everyone in the class got a great deal from his skillfull teaching and guidance. Everett clearly loves what he does and that shines through everything. – Kathy, Oxfordshire, England